Respect?

What do you think when someone says respect? Do you think it is an entitlement? Do you think it is something to be earned? Do you think it is something to be mutually given?

When I think or hear the word respect, it makes me think of many different things. I believe respect is something you earn. I also believe it is something which should be given mutually. Respect, however, is in no way an entitlement because of age. Just because you have age on someone does not entitle you to automatic respect and if you do not give respect to others I do not believe you should receive respect.

People are people no matter what their ages are, however respect is something you have to teach as well as earn and give. The way you treat someone shows them the level of respect or the lack of respect you have, not only for them but for yourself.

So the next time you feel you are not being respected, check yourself and see if you are showing any respect. It is a two-way street, just like many other things when you are dealing with other people.

Bucket Lists

Are Bucket Lists a societal norm? Is it something everyone one thinks about doing or is it just something we do without putting a lot of thought into or even writing down?

I know I have thought about things I would like to do or accomplish before I die. It is not like I think about dying or do I want to think about not being around for a very long time. But as we all know dying is just a fact of life and inevitable.

I think for most even if they don't realize it is to leave a mark on the people in our lives, to make a difference in some manner. The way we impact those around us or the lives we cross paths with is what shows the kind of person we are.

How do you impact those around you? How do the people in your life see you?

All I can hope for is the impact I have on the people I touch is a positive one. However, I am not nieve enough to believe it is possible to make everyone happy or please everyone. All I can do is be true to myself and be who I am. This is what is top of my Bucket List and the most important item on it.

I think it should be the top of everyone's list to be true to themselves and to be happy with who they are.

So in closing -- Be proud of the person you are and if you aren't, find a way to be proud of who you are!

Book Cover Release

The link below is to the event for The release of Book Three's Cover. Come and join the fun and give your feedback.

https://www.facebook.com/events/949186725207714/

Pick your battles!

Which is best when you are angry, talking it out or silence? Does it depend on the situation as to which is correct? Is someone always right in a disagreement?

Everyone believes what they think and feel is right, however, the belief doesn't make them correct. There are always two sides to a story. We all have different perspectives, but our perspectives don't make us more right than the other person's perspective.

We all have our own way of doing things, it doesn't make it wrong or right, just different. Putting it simply I fold my towels in thirds, but my husband only folds in halves. Just because he doesn't do it the way I want or the way I would, doesn't make him wrong and me right. Just makes it our own way.

Now don't get me wrong there are some things there is, a right way and a wrong way to do them, but in most things, there are just different ways, not right or wrong.

How do you work?

Everyone has a different way of approaching how they work. What I mean by how you work is, what keeps you on task? What helps you focus? Work isn't just a job you do, work is how your mind functions and process what you are thinking or doing.

For me I have to have back ground noise, static if you will. I use the tv or music to keep my focus on what I am doing. I find it keeps me from be distracted when I am doing things. With the tv it has to be on a channel which plays shows I have already seen so it doesn't pull my attention. Music is my favorite back ground noise. However the down side to music is the impulse to want to dance to certain songs. LOL

Here is why I know this about myself. When I was a child I was trained to sleep with a fan and to sleep at 12 hour intervals. I can't say how the 12 hour intervals occurred, but they did and still continue to this day. Well when I can anyway. As I got older my mother attempted to break this pattern with no luck. She would come in during the night and turn my fan off, especially in the winter and as soon as she would turn the fan off I would wake up. It really made her crazy because I slept with the fan in my open window. So glad I never had to look or understand the electric bill, at least then anyway. LOL So you see in my opinion, our training for how we do things as adults started when we were children. So what we call habits or personality, it started at the beginning.

There are those who need the silence, but I just can't comprehend no sound. I find silence deafening. I can't even get my mind to stay on one track when there is complete silence. I feel like I am losing my mind when it is silent.

So, how do you work? Do you know why?

Notorious

I don't normally comment on TV shows, but this new show. But in this case, I will because it has one of my favorite actresses Piper Perabo. I have loved her since  the movie Coyote Ugly, which yes I own.
If you are able to catch this show I suggest you do. It is an awesome show!!